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Love,

for most of us, is a very personal concept. We believe that although what we feel is universal, it is at the same time customized specifically for us and towards the person that our love is aimed at. The truth is that the concept of love itself is relatively new — at least when looking at it as a part of human culture.

The first to give romantic love a name were the Greeks, calling it “Eros.” However, romantic love didn’t actually become a popular concept until the medieval ages. During this period of roughly 1,000 years, the concept of romantic love formulated and spread through European culture, but nevertheless was not yet considered to be necessary for marriage; only during the Victorian period did romantic love become a prerequisite for marrying someone.
Love is a wonderful thing :-)
So if not for love, for what reason did people marry? Originally, marriages were not by choice, but rather by arrangement or by capture. When men raided other villages, farms or castles, they would capture the women and take them as brides. Even more common were marriages formed in order to strengthen business relationships or to create political alliances.

Dowries were also strong motivators, but until the 5th century, the idea of loving someone and marrying them for this sole purpose was unheard of. Romantic love, which fully blossomed during the Victorian Era during the 19th century, has basically remained an important concept in western culture today. We have even gone a step further – the bride and groom want a destination wedding such as a romantic beach weddings in Tenerife, Spain.

The relationship between a man and woman

Nevertheless, the concept of the relationship between a man and woman has changed. Overlooking the whole gay marriage movement, the concept of marriage itself has begun to change. Nowadays many believe marriage to be a rather archaic concept, one that no longer fills a cultural void.

Tradition has in the past played a significant role in cultures all over the world. While in many parts of the world, tradition remains the main guiding light, in the most developed countries the importance of tradition has dwindled and the tradition of marriage, specifically, has begun to transform.

Peoples’ ideals have shifted and a culture that was once focused on family and togetherness now revolves around the concept of independence. The priority of human beings for centuries has been to begin a family — to procreate. That, I believe, is no longer the case — generally.

Are we focusing on ourselves

Most people — especially those living in an urban setting — have shifted their focus from the family ideal to a more egocentric way of Harmoni and lovethinking and of living. While during the Victorian Era, many found the idea of finding a lover and starting a family to care for as their sole purpose in life, many of today’s youth shudder at the idea.

If we look at this closely, we will notice a pattern: our culture is slowly cycling back to the days prior to the Medieval period; we are resorting back to the days when our focus was on ourselves. The main difference is that during those days of yonder, marriage between a man and woman brought with it many monetary and/or political gains. Today, marrying to get ahead in life is rare.

Because our culture focuses so much on independence and on self-improvement, many people prefer to make their fortune themselves rather than marry into it. Not to mention that the richest of the rich tend to carry a prenup in their back pocket, just in case.

Will you marry for happiness

If you aren’t going to marry for profit, then you will marry for happiness. This, however, brings another problem. The current dominant vRomantic Chateau wedding at Hattonchatel Chateau in Franceiew on marriage is that it leads to tension within the relationship, leading to a separation and much unhappiness. But we are often getting married again after a divorce – we are looking for happiness!

We love our freedom and tying the knot leaves us feeling tied down. If we look at the divorce rate, we will notice that this idea is not so farfetched. I honestly believe that marriage is becoming such a deterrent because people are becoming more and more afraid of divorce.

Divorce causes pain, misery, monetary loss and is seen as a significant setback to living a happy life. So, we are beginning to avoid the possibility of divorce by avoiding marriage altogether. This is not to say that we are boycotting relationships. We do and always will date — what passes for dating these days is rather sad, but I will try to refrain from going off on this tangent.

Romantic and exclusive Gazebo weddings in Tenerife, Spain

The main problem that I see with the way most of us are living our lives these days is that while we cherish our independence and prefer to focus on bettering ourselves as people, we have been exposed to romantic love and romantic places such as Clansani Venues in Tenerife where many wedding couples has booked their romantic wedding ceremony or tend to go for a romantic honeymoon. For all of you that have experienced that magic of falling in love, you will surely agree that there is no other feeling like it in the world.

Does our culture still focuses on romantic love

Our culture still focuses on romantic love and for this reason it is embedded in our minds. I don’t believe this is a bad thing — we ought to focus on love. Just imagine how it would be to declare your love and propose to your loved one in one of the beautiful wedding castles in France such as Hattonchâtel Château. The only issue is that many people get lost in their independence. They live alone for so long, that the idea of marriage and finding love seems to become an impossibility. These people tend to resort to saying: “marriage just isn’t for me.”

There isn’t a single thing about marriage itself that ought to deter anyone from getting married. All it is is a piece of paper and a promise. Those who resort to such line of thought rather not admit to themselves that they have lived alone for so long that they believe themselves to have become incapable of sharing their lives with another. Whether or not this is true, I cannot say for sure since I am not in this situation.

The wedding picture from FranceDo you avoid love

The one thing I can say is that love ought to remain cherished because it is the one concept in this world that remains untainted. As of now, our culture has resorted back to the days of pillaging — only that after we pick up a woman and use her, we don’t marry her; we send her on her way. Love can be a scary thing — or rather the loss of it can be.

Living in fear is no way to live. The concept of marriage fading doesn’t bother me as much as people avoiding love for the fear of being hurt or having to break a promise. You need a bit of pain and suffering in your life in order to experience joy and happiness.

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Beautiful castle wedding venues in France

Last September my wife and I spent five nights in the romantic bridal suite and Honeymoon Suite at the Gothic-style castle in Hattonchâtel Château. We were going to get married in France and had chosen this exciting and private castle to celebrate our special wedding day.

Getting married again

We arrived in the small French village Hattonchâtel Friday morning and picked up the key at the house of the keeper of the castle. He and his wife just live next to it. It was the first time we were about to sleep in a real authentic castle, we never had this kind of experience before and, accordingly, were very excited.
The reason of our stay was our wedding celebration. Though we already got married in Toscana, Italy in May 2010 we decided to celebrate it a second time with family and friends who did not make the trip to Italy. But this time it was only a small and intimate wedding since we had invited only 29 wedding guests but we went through the whole wedding ceremony again – starting in the small church next to the Castle.

Renting the castle includes wedding exclusivity

We got the key from the keeper of the castle and our extraordinary time traveling adventure was about to begin. The castle is situated at the far end of the little village. We entered through the big iron door and stood inside the yard and garden with a wonderful view over the countryside and the lake named “Lac de Madine”. In addition you will see a large water basin right in front of you and beautiful flowers await you where ever you turn. By hiring the castle we had exclusivity the weekend where we were celebrating our wedding which was absolutely fabulously – we surely enjoyed the castle stay with our family and closest friends.

The castle wedding was held on the Saturday and it was the perfect wedding venue indeed and the wedding settings was just stunning. The staff was professional and very helpful and we were very happy for having decided to stay the first couple of days  after the wedding at the wedding castle as the beginning of our romantic honeymoon in France. After we had finished our Castle honeymoon we went to the French capital Paris and stayed at The hotel Ritz, they offered a special budget honeymoon package for newly wed couples.
We have stayed at many different hotels worldwide but never at an old romantic castle. It was an unforgettable experience. Unfortunately the castle stay was too short and that taken into account that we spent the rest of our honeymoon in Paris “The city of light”. Once you taste that lifestyle – staying in an authentic & historic Castle – you can really get used to it.

The Bridal- & Honeymoon suite is located in the upper tower at the end of a long corridor on the first floor. To the left on the ground floor there is a magnificent large dining room with a romantic fire place where sofas invite you to relax. To the right there are the breakfast and reading salons and the bibliotheca. On the stone walls there are rich tapestries and paintings – it was indeed going to be a fairy tale wedding.

A bridal suite worthy of a princess

When we entered the bridal suite we were met with a bottle of Dom Pérignon Champagne on ice and a beautiful bouquet flowers and a basket of fresh fruits.
The Bridal suite itself consists of a beautiful bedroom with a fire place, nice tapestries, a wonderful wooden oak floor and a balcony. Furthermore, there is an adjacent salon with cozy armchairs and comfortable sofas. Finally there is an huge en-suite bathroom combing a modern state-of-the-art shower and a Victorian style bathtub. It is a perfect and peaceful place to relax and recover. The bed is very comfortable and inviting.

The Knights Hall – Le Grande Salle

The Knights Hall is steeped in French history, from its huge stone pillars to its imposing stone fireplace. Remnants of a forgotten era grace the walls from spears and shields to more unusual objects. The ambiance of the room is indescribable – you have to see it and more important you have to feel it! The Knights Hall is just next to the lawn with its classic fountain which is a perfect area for arrivals drinks and canapés.
The Hall was where we celebrated our wedding and had our wedding breakfast – later that night the stunning fireplace was lit, the fireplace has the mutable crackling sounds of burning wood and blinking light and the room was full of atmosphere which lifted the whole wedding party to another and new level. It was a very romantic Castle wedding and honeymoon location and the beautiful hide-away French Castle lived up fully to our wedding expectations.

Yours Sincerely
Eva & Patrick Christoph

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