Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Posts Tagged ‘love’


Love,

for most of us, is a very personal concept. We believe that although what we feel is universal, it is at the same time customized specifically for us and towards the person that our love is aimed at. The truth is that the concept of love itself is relatively new — at least when looking at it as a part of human culture.

The first to give romantic love a name were the Greeks, calling it “Eros.” However, romantic love didn’t actually become a popular concept until the medieval ages. During this period of roughly 1,000 years, the concept of romantic love formulated and spread through European culture, but nevertheless was not yet considered to be necessary for marriage; only during the Victorian period did romantic love become a prerequisite for marrying someone.
Love is a wonderful thing :-)
So if not for love, for what reason did people marry? Originally, marriages were not by choice, but rather by arrangement or by capture. When men raided other villages, farms or castles, they would capture the women and take them as brides. Even more common were marriages formed in order to strengthen business relationships or to create political alliances.

Dowries were also strong motivators, but until the 5th century, the idea of loving someone and marrying them for this sole purpose was unheard of. Romantic love, which fully blossomed during the Victorian Era during the 19th century, has basically remained an important concept in western culture today. We have even gone a step further – the bride and groom want a destination wedding such as a romantic beach weddings in Tenerife, Spain.

The relationship between a man and woman

Nevertheless, the concept of the relationship between a man and woman has changed. Overlooking the whole gay marriage movement, the concept of marriage itself has begun to change. Nowadays many believe marriage to be a rather archaic concept, one that no longer fills a cultural void.

Tradition has in the past played a significant role in cultures all over the world. While in many parts of the world, tradition remains the main guiding light, in the most developed countries the importance of tradition has dwindled and the tradition of marriage, specifically, has begun to transform.

Peoples’ ideals have shifted and a culture that was once focused on family and togetherness now revolves around the concept of independence. The priority of human beings for centuries has been to begin a family — to procreate. That, I believe, is no longer the case — generally.

Are we focusing on ourselves

Most people — especially those living in an urban setting — have shifted their focus from the family ideal to a more egocentric way of Harmoni and lovethinking and of living. While during the Victorian Era, many found the idea of finding a lover and starting a family to care for as their sole purpose in life, many of today’s youth shudder at the idea.

If we look at this closely, we will notice a pattern: our culture is slowly cycling back to the days prior to the Medieval period; we are resorting back to the days when our focus was on ourselves. The main difference is that during those days of yonder, marriage between a man and woman brought with it many monetary and/or political gains. Today, marrying to get ahead in life is rare.

Because our culture focuses so much on independence and on self-improvement, many people prefer to make their fortune themselves rather than marry into it. Not to mention that the richest of the rich tend to carry a prenup in their back pocket, just in case.

Will you marry for happiness

If you aren’t going to marry for profit, then you will marry for happiness. This, however, brings another problem. The current dominant vRomantic Chateau wedding at Hattonchatel Chateau in Franceiew on marriage is that it leads to tension within the relationship, leading to a separation and much unhappiness. But we are often getting married again after a divorce – we are looking for happiness!

We love our freedom and tying the knot leaves us feeling tied down. If we look at the divorce rate, we will notice that this idea is not so farfetched. I honestly believe that marriage is becoming such a deterrent because people are becoming more and more afraid of divorce.

Divorce causes pain, misery, monetary loss and is seen as a significant setback to living a happy life. So, we are beginning to avoid the possibility of divorce by avoiding marriage altogether. This is not to say that we are boycotting relationships. We do and always will date — what passes for dating these days is rather sad, but I will try to refrain from going off on this tangent.

Romantic and exclusive Gazebo weddings in Tenerife, Spain

The main problem that I see with the way most of us are living our lives these days is that while we cherish our independence and prefer to focus on bettering ourselves as people, we have been exposed to romantic love and romantic places such as Clansani Venues in Tenerife where many wedding couples has booked their romantic wedding ceremony or tend to go for a romantic honeymoon. For all of you that have experienced that magic of falling in love, you will surely agree that there is no other feeling like it in the world.

Does our culture still focuses on romantic love

Our culture still focuses on romantic love and for this reason it is embedded in our minds. I don’t believe this is a bad thing — we ought to focus on love. Just imagine how it would be to declare your love and propose to your loved one in one of the beautiful wedding castles in France such as Hattonchâtel Château. The only issue is that many people get lost in their independence. They live alone for so long, that the idea of marriage and finding love seems to become an impossibility. These people tend to resort to saying: “marriage just isn’t for me.”

There isn’t a single thing about marriage itself that ought to deter anyone from getting married. All it is is a piece of paper and a promise. Those who resort to such line of thought rather not admit to themselves that they have lived alone for so long that they believe themselves to have become incapable of sharing their lives with another. Whether or not this is true, I cannot say for sure since I am not in this situation.

The wedding picture from FranceDo you avoid love

The one thing I can say is that love ought to remain cherished because it is the one concept in this world that remains untainted. As of now, our culture has resorted back to the days of pillaging — only that after we pick up a woman and use her, we don’t marry her; we send her on her way. Love can be a scary thing — or rather the loss of it can be.

Living in fear is no way to live. The concept of marriage fading doesn’t bother me as much as people avoiding love for the fear of being hurt or having to break a promise. You need a bit of pain and suffering in your life in order to experience joy and happiness.

www.Clansani .com
booking@Clansani.com
+34 922 78 62 00

Read Full Post »


Valentines Day – Legend, Myth or Truth

In England and France during the Middle Ages it was commonly believed to be the beginning of birds’ mating season on February 14th thus, the idea was borne that this should be the selected date whereby one could express love and romance to their partner. Although a further theory is that, dating back to the Roman era and the ancient fertility festival, known as the Feast of Lupercalia, also gave birth to this idea. The festival took place at the beginning of spring and was held to honor the Roman God of fertility. However, the most common belief of the legend for the Valentines celebration derives from a legendary priest. He was the Patron Saint of this legend and during the third century in Rome he performed secret marriages for young couples. Marriage was at this time outlawed by the Emperor who wanted to make all men into better soldiers. The priest was seized by this cruel and unforgiving Emperor, Claudius II, and was sentenced to death. Thus St. Valentine became immortal in the hearts of all young lovers and 14th February became the day to pay tribute to this great sacrifice of Saint Valentine.

Valentines Day – a day of celebration

For centuries this celebrated date has now become a unique day dedicated to the unconditional love between two mortals. The whole day is dedicated to those whom have had their hearts pierced by cupids arrow and express and indulge their undying love and affection from the most simplest form to the most extravagant lavish gifts. The need to shower ones partner with love on this day and fulfil the experience of demonstrating the extent of feeling is done with the sending of cards, gifts of love and especially red roses. It is a day of togetherness. A day of devoting time your loved one, candlelit dinners and unbroken dreamy gazes into each other eyes with romantic words of endearment spoken softly. This day seems to open floodgates as the ideal opportunity to express unspoken thoughts and often to proposals of marriage.

Romantic Weekend Breaks

Did you know that Valentines Day is the second most celebrated day, Christmas being the first. It is a day that is celebrated throughout the globe. A gift on Valentines Day is pure demonstration of ones affection. It is recorded back to the seventeenth century where hand written love notes were exchanged. This was replaced in the eighteenth century by simple greeting cards being exchanged.

In the present day Valentines Day is marked for dating and extensive gift giving customs. The size of the card, gift or the act undertaken to demonstrate the amount of ones affection to their partner has become limitless! The whole environment wears a festive look literally! Shops and stores are filled with varieties of clothing and underwear adorned with hearts and cuties, all in a rich red colour.

The most traditional and popular way to demonstrate your love and affection is to send a single red rose. More often than not a poem is included as a note and there will be no name attached as the recipient should know from whom it has been sent, not always the case but this then enters into the fun element of the day.

proposals of marriage

Valentines Day is also the most popular day when proposals of marriage are made. Again here strikes the element of not only surprise but also romantic destinations are highly sought and are very much in demand, such as authentic Chateaus in France, Grand Manor Houses in Denmark or guaranteed warm climates at this time of the year such as Tenerife. Many couples which may have been parted find themselves uniting on this day, the distance one may have to travel to be with ones loved one is irrelevant.

It is the perfect date choice not only to demonstrate the depth of your love to your cherished one, and to then ask to spend the rest of your lives together.

Recently, it is also becoming a frequent fashion to begin demonstrating ones love a few days prior to Valentines Day, this is a fairly new idea and appears to be more in line with those intending to pop the question! It begins with perhaps a box of chocolates a day or so before. This would be followed by a bouquet and a love note, all leading to that one big surprise of a trip away to a Romantic Venue and the end gift being a red envelope enclosing details of that romantic venue for two.

Quote:

“At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.

Plato

www.ritz-resorts.com
booking@ritz-resorts.com
0034 922 78 62 00

Read Full Post »